(This is an extract from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Taking things personally is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me”. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind and their own world.
A world created by the agreements they have made with themselves.
Whatever they feel and think is their problem, not our problem, even if what we’re saying is hurting them, its their wound and their hurt, they are hurting themselves.
If you feel good, everything around you is good.
You can only love everything that is around you because you love yourself.
We have a choice whether we believe the voices we hear in our mind. The mind can talk and listen at the same time. It’s like a busy market place (mitote) where a thousand people are all talking at the same time.
Each voice has a different feeling and thought and they confuse us.
Only by making an inventory of our agreements with ourselves, will we uncover all the conflicts in the mind and create order in the mitote.
You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for others, only for yourself.